Keep Your Head Up

Things are definitely not the same as before. I had more patience. I tolerated people and situations that weren’t good for me at all. How bout you?

This is a prime example of some of the positive/great ways that I live my life now, all because the strokes were the cause of it. I don’t want to go back in time, in order to have more patience and tolerance for sucky situations. If people or situations overwhelm me, stress me out, then I weed them out of my life. If it’s a family member that I can’t get rid of so easily, then I put strong boundaries between us and ALOT of distance.

Of course it’s possible with consistency and for one’s heart to not be worn on one’s sleeve. It’s easier said than done, and I can vouch for this 100%. But for my peace of mind and my happiness, it’s 200% worth it.

Remember we’re always in control of our life choices. ALWAYS. If you don’t feel you have a choice, well that’s because one was already made: You’ve decided to tolerate the stressful people and situations. But that doesn’t mean we can’t go in reverse, you still have that choice. What’s the saying? (I have too many sayings in my head lol) “It’s better late than never.”

Especially after the strokes, I have no tolerance for stress. Is it just me? When I was really, really sick, I was dependent on my family members and loved ones. Now that I’m not dependent on them, it’s like they got worse (my family), thus them becoming dependent on me.

That’s too stressful for me to handle. I can only handle my life, not worry about theirs’ too. In addition, may I add, my life is my life, not anyone else’s.

We’re only in control of ourselves. Have you ever heard of the serenity prayer? For those of you whom have, you’ll hopefully appreciate it again. For those of you who haven’t, it goes something like this: “God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference.” ~Reinhold Niebuhr

Awesome right? I abide by this in my life (And I highly recommend for everyone else to do the same). Some people may be familiar with this prayer as it’s in Alcoholics Anonymous. You’re offering me a drink? No thank you, I’m driving. Plus I’m allergic to alcohol, but thanks anyways.

All I can say is they have the right idea. Even Dr. Seuss had the right idea, he states, “Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.” He taught kids the right idea when they were young too. If only someone wrote something like this for adolescents and adults, like an instruction manual for life. (Did they? I wouldn’t know) That would be really awesome, I’d guard it like it was a pot of gold.

It’s like a giant see-saw of emotions. On the one side, if we please everyone except ourselves, they’ll be up in the air on the see-saw “happy” and we’ll be on the ground on the see-saw “unhappy”, “miserable”, and to top it off, sometimes “crazed”. Vice versa, the opposite is true, we’re up in the air on the see-saw, happy as a clam, thus they aren’t.

Life is way too short for 1. Stress 2. Games 3. Anything that make’ s one unhappy. Obviously the 3rd one is a fine line, everyone please stay on the side that abides by the law lol. Its in everyones’ best interest.

Moral of the story: Be happy…Be response-able for ur life ~ in EVERY aspect ~ meaning you’re making choices and owning up to them whether it results in good or bad. Have a great day💗