Seriously, things were confusing to me way before the strokes, now it’s more confusing than ever. Lol Makes me want to pull my hair out, but instead I laugh (alot) about this, humor myself, and shake my head alot. If only people saw me, they would be shaking their head at me, thinking the same, and thinking I’m crazy.
It’s my first time creating a blog, and things are like a different language to me (everything seems that way). I get overwhelmed and confused easily (Very easily). I thought I wrote 3 blogs…butttt there’s three different sites; resiliency among the uncontrollable, a blog excerpt, and tbi stroke survivor 2017. HUH!?
I have to Google EVERYTHING. Guess what I did? I googled “what’s a blog excerpt?” It’s a summary of my blog? It still confuses me as of this moment. So what do I do? Instead of fixating on it, and feeling bad for myself, I move on. Now I’m writing my “First Blog” (lol) Hooray for me 😊 Now I feel good again.
This is just an example of what I do now when something confuses me. I just move on to something else I can do. What if we can’t so easily move on? Like it’s a job? Or if we’re determined to complete it, what do we do now? Or if we have to get it finished but we have to protect ourselves, what do we do?
The first two questions, the answer is: take a break. Focus on something else. Go for a walk. Take your mind off it. Do a different task, one that is no doubt in your mind that you can do it. Then go back to the initial task that confused you (not right away though).
Especially if you see yourself fixating on it again, it’s way too soon. You’re back to square one, where you started. What does fixating on something do? How does it make us feel? Down in the dumps? Makes one want to cry? Makes one feel like a failure? Makes one question all the “what ifs?” Then it’s definitely way too soon. Give yourself a break focused on a different direction for at least thirty minutes.
The answer to the third question: ask for help or have a loved one do it for you. Why put ourselves at risk for something so simple that we could do before our TBI? Because we’re determined to get better to the point we’re the same as before but now? I wish things were the same for me before the TBI. Guess what? I’m feeling sad now. Makes me think about questioning the “what ifs?” Do I want to go down that path? HELL NO. Trust your gut. You feel awkward/uncomfortable, sad, depressed? Turn the other way. Your going down a downward spiral too steep to climb up, one that you shouldn’t put yourself at risk for. Ask for help/assistance. If there’s no one to ask, STOP the task. Do something entirely different. Or if there is a loved one capable of doing it and willing to do it for you, ask them. They’ll gladly do it for you. Just never exploit yourself/put yourself at risk.
We’ve all been through alot, why punish ourselves further? Especially when we can help others in similar situations? Do we want them to see us as an example and follow us? Will that be productive for them? Answer me this, if it’s not productive for them, then how is it then the right path for you?
Have a great day. 💗
Resilient Peaceful Positive Survivor 